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During the summer 0f 2008, I woke up one morning with a drive to live a healthy lifestyle. Since then, I've made many changes and lost nearly 50 pounds. Many of my friends and family members have come to me, asking about what I'm doing & how I'm doing it. While I certainly would never claim to be an expert, I'm happy to share what I've learned along the way.

So after careful thought... "The Accidental Fat Chick" has hatched... with the hope of helping at least one person and to be the accountability I need to finish what I started. :)

Thank you for visiting!!

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Let's All STOP!

Before I get on to my post, I should report that the scale LOVED me today... to the tune of 4.2 pounds!!! Holy crapola I can hardly believe it... its rare, if ever, that I've seen that large a number. I stood staring at the scale having one of those moments of "how the heck did that happen? am I sick and don't know it?" Then I thought how different this past week was from the few previous and I calmed my not-so-little self down.

So the report for week one: I had a loss of 4.2 pounds, which brings me down to 194.4. My calories ranged from 1190-2500ish during the week. I had restaurant food on three days, but on the third day kept it within the calories of my planned meal. Exercise was a real struggle, which I wrote about yesterday. I got in a tad of cardio... I think about 3 miles walking is all; two core workouts and one general strength training workout.


Okay, now on to what is really on my little mind... something that has been lurking for a few days and has gotten to the point where it is nagging at me the second my mind starts to wander to blogging.

Remember, last Thursday I took The Boy One to Applebees for his school fundraiser... and proceeded to add quesadillas and a margarita to my planned meal. I think that meal is where this thing began nagging at me. Since then, I've seen or heard several people in blogs, on FB or in text messages practically begging for forgiveness for little indulgences such as candy, chips, ice cream, an extra dollup of sour cream, etc. That night, as I was eating, I texted Melissa and told her I was committing "foodicide." Her response is something that I want to repeat to every person I hear or see admonishing themselves.


She didn't shout it like that, but those were her exact words to me... and they are my words to you should you happen to have a few M&Ms, a little bag of chips, an extra piece of bread, a scoop of ice cream or whatever.

By now you probably know that my philosophy is to live a healthy lifestyle & lose weight in terms that I can sustain for the long haul... meaning its not going to be perfect from a nutritional standpoint and its not going to be so strict that I snap one day... meaning its going to have highs and lows... means its going to adjust within reason for the other areas of my life. This is why when I do a gym challenge, I increase my calorie intake so that I don't lose weight too rapidly... because I know that while I may push myself beyond my normal levels to finish a challenge its not something I can do day in/day out for the rest of my life.

When it comes to food, the same rules apply for me. I eat mostly nutritious, healthy things. I feed these same foods to my family. I know what is and isn't beneficial for my body. I also know that some things which are definitely not beneficial happen to be mighty tasty. I know that, for me, it is unreasonable to expect that I will never again eat a donut, fried cheese stick, croissant, etc. For most of us, we have spent a good portion of our lives eating foods that were not good for us, but we surely enjoyed the taste... and its probably not likely that we will never have them again. And being perfectly honest, there are certain foods that I feel are worth every minute I have to spend in the gym to compensate for them!

Instead of beating ourselves up over "giving in" to temptation or having a "slip up" by eating that ice cream cone, we can turn it into a positive and say something like "I choose to incorporate foods I truly enjoy into my plans." Or something like, "I can choose to eat anything I want... if I plan for it and if it is worth it to me use the calories that way."

I know there are people out there that have problems with binging and I recognize that a simple bite can lead to an all out binge for you... and for you I know its often better if you just stay totally away from certain foods. This I understand... and I commend you for having the mental fortitude to avoid foods that are triggers for you.

For the rest of us, though, I say....

Let's all STOP beating ourselves up over the occasional treat & remember that living a healthy lifestyle does NOT mean we have to be perfect with every morsel that passes our lips.

And even if you totally fall off the train for a day, remember this... its not what we do once in a while that is going to make or break us in our efforts; its what we do consistently - day after day - that will determine our success.

Plan for success!


Drazil said...

Some day I want to be an athlete like you AND as wise as you. Okay and now for the best part:

Did you lose an arm? Amazing weight loss. THIS is why YOU are my idol.

Keep on keeping on sista - and be well dear friend.

Ice Queen said...

Bravo! Very well said.

And, girl, excellent loss for the week. I bow to thee. :D

Dani @ WRW said...

Congrats on your progress this week! That's amazing!

And I agree about the "be kind to yourself!" thing in regards to slip ups. I've always been all "so what?" when I indulge a little.

It's tricky though ... because sometimes, when someone (read: me) says "I just royally screwed up!", I don't think they are beating themselves up for overindulging during one meal or even a day. Instead, what they are upset about is opening up an opportunity for previous behaviors to creep back in.

Seriously ... I'll be doing great and then out of nowhere an M&M can turn into a week long binge. My "OMG! I ate X!" REALLY means "OMG! Is this going to be the gateway to gaining back to where I started?".

You never know.

Anyway ... sorry for novel! Again, congrats on an AMAZING week. Thanks for the inspiration!

jenny m said...

Fifty One Pounds says way to go. I agree completely and I save my treats for Sunday...I call it Sugar Sunday and White flour day, one day a week I indulge with a key factor...moderation. YOu are doing great. :) Jenny

Life as a Caterpillar said...

Thank you Julie, thank you for saying that.

I DO beat myself up about things, and that is advserse to my efforts and motivated mood.

You are really onto something here !


Juli's Journey said...

Congrats on the weight loss. Do you realize you almost lost an entire bag of potatoes in ONE WEEK?????? That is amazing.

From now on, I vow to stop kicking myself if I choose to splurge a little. Even though I want to walk in your weight loss footsteps, I will be happy with getting healthy while not depriving myself of little joys in life, I will just reduce them. :) thanks for your continued inspiration.

Laura said...

Great blog! I've never been much of a self-abuser, but I have done it a couple of times, and when I realized I was doing it, I made myself stop, and find something positive that I had done during the meal. Like I only drank water, or diet soda, or I didn't have dessert, and it helps keep me kind of in perspective, that yes, I went over on my calories, but I still have some healthy habits in there that help to balance it out.

Happy day!

bbubblyb said...

What a great post Julie. Way to go on that great lost this week too. I swear so often when I have good loses it seems to be more about what mental state I'm in than what I'm eating or how much I'm exercising. I do think positive thinking goes a long way.

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20somethingfatty said...

Amen! That is such a sensible look at food, something that is hard to find. thanks for spreading some good ideas. :)

clickmom said...

Congrats on the major loss! I'm jealous. My therapist tells me all of the time not to beat myself up. He says the important part is not the binge, it's getting right back into a healthy groove. (and that is for free!)

Melissa said...

I am so behind on my blogs, but so glad that I say something sensible every now and then. :)

I was right too wasn't I?

anji said...

I've learned that food is just food. One meal isn't gonna kill ya.

Since I got my head around that, I just focus on awesome workouts. And, eating better just comes gradually.

*chin up!*

and *hugs*


Julie said...

I think I have said these words of yours in my posts before. A life style change is just that, learning to eat healthy but not taking everything away. Learning moderation, the do's and don'ts. It is so hard but you are doing so well. I am enjoying your blog. Someone that thinks like me. Maybe it's the name.
Off to read a bit more and get to know you a bit more.
Take care and God Bless!!